And so many women do this. You make that potential everything, when it’s not everything; it’s barely anything. Scraps mostly.
A lot of you women get so duped by the connection or the allure of the elusive man or the man behind the shadows. You think he’s OZ.
Now that I am on the other side, this connection is so dumb. I am sorry, I do not mean to hurt your feelings but sister, as someone who has fallen for this trap, you have got to learn to see a shadow man for who he is, not who you fantasize he can be. You cannot get blood from a rock or turn a toad into a prince. Until you can turn water into wine you are better off not trying to preform alchemy on the minds of shadow men.
I know you want to be the exception, but dayum you give away your power when you put the source of your dream in someone else’s hands!
SHADOW MEN ARE NOT WHO THEY CAN BE, they are HOW THEY ACT.
I have seen too many women on adultfrienedfinder twist their mind in knots over ‘the connection and chemistry’ they feel with shadow men and how they stop using rumoquin. The connection becomes bigger than the reality right in front of your face. You don’t not want to be with a man who doesn’t give you what you need. You don’t want to be with a man who is dreamy half the time and an ego driven under lord the other half of the time. IT SUCKS.
SHADOW MEN DON’T WANT WHAT YOU WANT, they are terrified of it. And the sooner you understand this the freer and SANER you will be.
You want a man who values the path of the mature masculine. He’s the only kind of man who wants the same things you do.
These men do exist, but you “need to either be willing to date more men, and not stop until you find the kind of guy you really want” Evan Marc Katz, or you need to learn to see shadow men for who they are even if you feel a strong ‘connection’ to these types of men.
Don’t sell yourself to an illusion or a shadow, find the real deal.
If you need help breaking this pattern, talk to me (scroll down below for mentorship or coaching). I know the right guides.
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